‘It takes God, patience to build a good marriage’

This is a very nice interview with Pastor(Mrs) Odubiyi,we hope you would find it  inspiring.

PastorTaiwo-ODUBIYI[1]Arguably Nigeria’s leading Christian fiction writer, Pastor (Mrs.) Taiwo Odubiyi spoke with Sunday Oguntola on her books, ministry, marriage and life at 50. Excerpts:   

How far did you consider turning 50 years ago?

It used to look very, very far then. It seemed like a long time away. I just kept myself busy, looking forward to it. Before I knew it, I am finally there. I just give God all the glory that I’m able to have lived this long.

Would you say you are where you visualised you will be at 50?

I wouldn’t say so but…It could have been better; I could have achieved more but I thank God for where I am today. I am grateful for what I have been able to achieve. Considering the impact and influence God is helping me to have on people, I think I have every cause to thank God. I thank God I am affecting my generation for him.

What would change for you from now on?

I have always been a very careful person and I believe so much in being led by the Spirit of God. I don’t want to take a step except God has led me. As far as that is concerned, I hope to be able to do more of that.

I have been so careful and I don’t make decisions that will backfire. If anything will change, I’d just say I will take more risks. I take calculated risks because if God is not in it, I don’t go. Once I am sure God is in it, I am gone.

At 50, what do you consider your greatest asset?

That will be my faith in God, my walk with Him. Basically, that is my greatest mainstay. Walking with God is my strength and asset. That is what drives my writings, seminars, teachings and ministries.

If you were to change anything about yourself, what would that be?

If I were to change anything about myself? I will still choose this church, my family and the people around me. If I were to change anything, maybe…. Well. I really cannot change anything. I think I am just contented with myself.

You have been churning out books after books? How do you get it done? 

I have 26 books now or more. I hope to publish three before the year ends. It hasn’t been easy because most times I find myself asking God for help. I ask Him to inspire me. I realise there are always things contending for my time and attention. I just tell myself, ‘Taiwo, you have to write because people are waiting for your books.’

Has it been rewarding writing?

It’s been rewarding, not in terms of money. I receive calls every day from readers and that is without exaggeration. They tell me how the books have been blessing them. It’s been awesome. When I’m travelling far, I read the books again. It’s very obvious it couldn’t have been me but God.

The books make me humble and realise that God is behind everything.

But if you were to be writing secular books, you’d swimming in millions by now. Doesn’t that occur to you?

Yes, sometimes that may occur to me. People around might say that, especially my husband. He’s always like ‘where is the money?’ But I feel honoured that I’m part of God’s plans for this time. It’s not about the money but about fulfillment and doing what you are called to do.

You hardly talk your marriage…

No, I do talk about my marriage. In most of my seminars, I talk based on what I experience in my marriage. I believe if you don’t have it, you cannot give it. Most of the things I teach are things God has taught me in my own marriage. All the underlying principles I mention in my books and talk about are things working for me in my marriage. And I tell people that if they follow them too, they will get the same results.

You have been married for how long now?

It would be 25 in June.

How has it been?

It’s been interesting but I have always had my own fair share of marital challenges. But it’s not about being perfect or having a perfect marriage but being able to overcome your challenges, whatever they may be.

Marriage counsellors like you always praise their partners and make people feel like their unions are the best. But people wonder if it’s all rosy with counsellors like you?

It’s not all rosy at all. I have had challenges too, like every normal couple. I tell people that if you don’t ever feel like ‘why did I marry this person’ or feel discouraged to move on, then it must be that you are just newly married.

There are times you will be discouraged or displeased with your marriage. In every normal marriage, there would be such times but then that is when you need God. When I get to that point, I turn back to God for intervention.

He is the author of marriage and is willing to help out. He fixes marriages that are problematic and turbulent if we invite Him over.

What are the toughest challenges you have had to handle in your marriage?

The toughest challenges? I wrote 30 things husbands do that hurt their wives to minister to men and my husband. That is because there are quite a lot men do that hurt their wives. One of the toughest challenges I have had is in the area of finance. I’m prudent and careful. I always want to ask God if I should go to a business but my husband is a risk taker. He’s always on the go. He spends the money as it comes.

That has been a little challenge but God has been helping us. He’s made investments that backfired but God has been helping us, like I said. He’s heavily anointed and God has been using him for His people.

What do you think if you are able to accomplish you would have made a success of your life?

One, I want people that comes across me to know that it pays to serve God. I want people to remember me as a woman that gave her life to Christ and never took it back. I want people to learn how to know God more through my actions and activities.

What are you working on?

I have a lot of unfinished works so I am trusting God to round them off. I am also trusting God for financial support from readers so that I can publish more. If I have more support, I can publish more every year. I can do an average of six books per year.

I have storylines in my head already; God keeps whispering what to write to me. So, I always have the storylines and plots marked out. With more support and attention, I would be able to do more.

If God asks you how many more years He should grant you, what would you tell Him?

I wouldn’t like to dictate to God but His word tells me that He is a loving God. He cares for me. He gave me a scripture once that “even to your old age, I will carry you”. That scripture touches me and assures me that He will take me to a very good, old age.

I know I’m going to be around for quite a long time, doing His works. I am just in His hands.

How far did you consider turning 50 years ago?

It used to look very, very far then. It seemed like a long time away. I just kept myself busy, looking forward to it. Before I knew it, I am finally there. I just give God all the glory that I’m able to have lived this long.

Would you say you are where you visualised you will be at 50?

I wouldn’t say so but…It could have been better; I could have achieved more but I thank God for where I am today. I am grateful for what I have been able to achieve. Considering the impact and influence God is helping me to have on people, I think I have every cause to thank God. I thank God I am affecting my generation for him.

What would change for you from now on?

I have always been a very careful person and I believe so much in being led by the Spirit of God. I don’t want to take a step except God has led me. As far as that is concerned, I hope to be able to do more of that.

I have been so careful and I don’t make decisions that will backfire. If anything will change, I’d just say I will take more risks. I take calculated risks because if God is not in it, I don’t go. Once I am sure God is in it, I am gone.

At 50, what do you consider your greatest asset?

That will be my faith in God, my walk with Him. Basically, that is my greatest mainstay. Walking with God is my strength and asset. That is what drives my writings, seminars, teachings and ministries.

If you were to change anything about yourself, what would that be?

If I were to change anything about myself? I will still choose this church, my family and the people around me. If I were to change anything, maybe…. Well. I really cannot change anything. I think I am just contented with myself.

You have been churning out books after books? How do you get it done? 

I have 26 books now or more. I hope to publish three before the year ends. It hasn’t been easy because most times I find myself asking God for help. I ask Him to inspire me. I realise there are always things contending for my time and attention. I just tell myself, ‘Taiwo, you have to write because people are waiting for your books.’

Has it been rewarding writing?

It’s been rewarding, not in terms of money. I receive calls every day from readers and that is without exaggeration. They tell me how the books have been blessing them. It’s been awesome. When I’m travelling far, I read the books again. It’s very obvious it couldn’t have been me but God.

The books make me humble and realise that God is behind everything.

But if you were to be writing secular books, you’d swimming in millions by now. Doesn’t that occur to you?

Yes, sometimes that may occur to me. People around might say that, especially my husband. He’s always like ‘where is the money?’ But I feel honoured that I’m part of God’s plans for this time. It’s not about the money but about fulfillment and doing what you are called to do.

You hardly talk your marriage…

No, I do talk about my marriage. In most of my seminars, I talk based on what I experience in my marriage. I believe if you don’t have it, you cannot give it. Most of the things I teach are things God has taught me in my own marriage. All the underlying principles I mention in my books and talk about are things working for me in my marriage. And I tell people that if they follow them too, they will get the same results.

You have been married for how long now?

It would be 25 in June.

How has it been?

It’s been interesting but I have always had my own fair share of marital challenges. But it’s not about being perfect or having a perfect marriage but being able to overcome your challenges, whatever they may be.

Marriage counsellors like you always praise their partners and make people feel like their unions are the best. But people wonder if it’s all rosy with counsellors like you?

It’s not all rosy at all. I have had challenges too, like every normal couple. I tell people that if you don’t ever feel like ‘why did I marry this person’ or feel discouraged to move on, then it must be that you are just newly married.

There are times you will be discouraged or displeased with your marriage. In every normal marriage, there would be such times but then that is when you need God. When I get to that point, I turn back to God for intervention.

He is the author of marriage and is willing to help out. He fixes marriages that are problematic and turbulent if we invite Him over.

What are the toughest challenges you have had to handle in your marriage?

The toughest challenges? I wrote 30 things husbands do that hurt their wives to minister to men and my husband. That is because there are quite a lot men do that hurt their wives. One of the toughest challenges I have had is in the area of finance. I’m prudent and careful. I always want to ask God if I should go to a business but my husband is a risk taker. He’s always on the go. He spends the money as it comes.

That has been a little challenge but God has been helping us. He’s made investments that backfired but God has been helping us, like I said. He’s heavily anointed and God has been using him for His people.

What do you think if you are able to accomplish you would have made a success of your life?

One, I want people that comes across me to know that it pays to serve God. I want people to remember me as a woman that gave her life to Christ and never took it back. I want people to learn how to know God more through my actions and activities.

What are you working on?

I have a lot of unfinished works so I am trusting God to round them off. I am also trusting God for financial support from readers so that I can publish more. If I have more support, I can publish more every year. I can do an average of six books per year.

I have storylines in my head already; God keeps whispering what to write to me. So, I always have the storylines and plots marked out. With more support and attention, I would be able to do more.

If God asks you how many more years He should grant you, what would you tell Him?

I wouldn’t like to dictate to God but His word tells me that He is a loving God. He cares for me. He gave me a scripture once that “even to your old age, I will carry you”. That scripture touches me and assures me that He will take me to a very good, old age.

I know I’m going to be around for quite a long time, doing His works. I am just in His hands.

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