Don’t Stop Living While You Are Waiting!

Admin note: Ms. Dewunmi Odebunmi is a new contributor to this site, and it is a pleasure and privilege to have her here. She will be sharing her life experiences and lessons she has learned in her Christian walk with us.  Her first article is a very inspirational, timely and thought provoking piece. I hope you are encouraged at you read it. I was certainly blessed.  Dewunmi, Welcome to the CCMAG family!


 waiting2 As long as we are still on this earthly plane, we will always longingly wait for one thing or the other: waiting for an answer to a special request, waiting for a dream to come true, waiting for that “special one” to show up, waiting for that great job, waiting for a long overdue promotion and waiting for just about anything good to happen.
Waiting for God’s appointed time can indeed be a painful experience. One wrought with discouragement, anxiety whether God will ever answer and a rising bile when God blesses others with the very thing you have been trusting him for. At these times you are tempted to think maybe God went on a sabbatical or that he just doesn’t care about you again. Rhetorical questions like these begin to flood your mind; “Will God ever answer my humble prayers and if yes when exactly”, “Where exactly did I go wrong”, “Am I being punished for my sins”. These questions are almost endless.
I have taken waiting to be a reality of life as everyone has had their fair share of waits, each unique to each individual. The issue now is not whether we will wait, but how we choose to wait. We can either choose to “resignedly wait” just wishing that something good happens or we “fervently wait” believing the answer is just around the corner, awaiting delivery to us.
waiting1As Christians we could get very utopian in our outlook to life. You would never imagine that you will stay so protractedly single, never think that you would have challenges with conception and a whole lot of life issues. You might even wonder what you had done to deserve these issues of life. However, I have come to realize that God does not work by our interpretation of equitableness nor does he allot blessings only those deserving of them. It is so easy to fail to remember that the God from whom we make this insistent and peremptory request to adopt our model of equitableness is also the one who freely forgives us when we confess our sins and turn away from them. For he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust (Mat 5:45b). So my very dear friend Molade got married as a virgin at age 30 and she spent the first 6years of her matrimony trying to conceive. We both did not understand why God would withhold the fruit of the womb from his daughter who had honoured him with her body all the way. We didn’t understand why God would give babies to high school kids, child abusers, a mentally deranged woman and to those who didn’t even deserve to own pets let alone children. And here also were the very promiscuous people we had known experiencing unbridled fertility. So my dear friend practically stopped living, she wore her pain raw and intense like a cloak. She lost a lot of weight, stopped going for her routine medical checkups as she told me it didn’t matter if she died since she really did not have a reason to live. Not even the thought of rendering her very dear husband a widower could make her see reasons to live. And then she decided to change her approach to “waiting” by doing the following:
waiting 31. She gave up trying to comprehend God and his ways: For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9)
2. She tried to see God even in the midst of the storm. It is so easy see God when we have the sublime things of life but when the storm rages we fail to notice his kind and mighty deeds.
3. She reassured herself that God was indeed a loving God. Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with loving-kindness have I drawn thee. (Jeremiah 31:3)
4. She gave a billion thanks in earnest anticipation of her miracles. In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
5. She stopped the comparisons. She stopped wondering and making comparisons as to why God needed to bless others that were less deserving above her. She stopped feeling like God was “indebted” to her. Focusing on the stories and realities of others could make one miss the all-encompassing vista of God’s grace.
6. She served and sought God more. She stopped looking at her problem and expended her energy and time serving God.
7. She started enjoying her life despite her problems. She took the full advantage of a “mom-in-waiting”. She toured all the countries she had longed to visit with her husband. She was able to understand that once the babies started coming, she just might not have the time and space to tour. May I say that our dear “Isaac” was conceived on one of those trips.
8. She was very honest with God about her feelings. God does not demand that we mask a smiley face when indeed we are sad; he already knows every bit of our thought. Ventilate your frustrations, anger and discouragements as refusing to express your feelings to him is depriving yourself of the full measure of his comfort. Throw those tantrums if you must, he sure can handle them. Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. (Psalm 62:8)
The waiting time is not always fun and it is so easy to become indignant but be assured that the vision is yet for an appointed time, though it tarry , wait for it; it shall surely come, it will not tarry. (God doesn’t work with Gregorian calendars and yet he is an accurate God; just trust his timing). He will surely make up for the seemingly lost time. Don’t worry about who is ahead of you, just get on your track and run your race.
Commit your times into God’s hands. He knows the end from the beginning and he doesn’t need your manual and mortal intervention in his plan for your life. Don’t worry about why that thing hasn’t happened yet. Don’t be in a hurry and don’t try to force doors open. Don’t even try to fix things. Don’t go birthing Ishmael when God has promised you Isaacs.
Always remember that God has a bigger and a better plan for you. Reject the temptation to curse God and die because he didn’t work to your time and plan. In the midst of it all resolve to wait patiently and expectantly on God and he definitely come through for you.
Don’t give up! Don’t stop living while you wait! …..and don’t stop believing!


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